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Men are really not as complicated as women think they are. They are straight forward and can only concentrate on one thing at a time. When they are focused on something, that is what they are actually doing. They are not usually also thinking about something else. They are not necessarily thinking about you whether they are in love or upset.
Women are much different than men. It is just the way they are constructed psychologically and emotionally. Whether they are in love or upset, they cannot stop thinking about the situation. Their imagination runs wild filling in the blanks about what could have happened in the case of a breakup.
Men are not multitasking thinkers. If they are at work, that is what they focus on. That doesn’t mean that you don’t cross their minds throughout the day, but, rather their priority during the day is work.
Women, on the other hand, if they are upset find it very difficult to get the situation off their minds, especially in the case of a bad breakup. It is hard for them to concentrate on work because they are literally being run by their emotions. Sick days are often used because they cannot make themselves go to work.
Men and women are hardwired very differently. That is one of the reasons why men say they do not understand women, and why women have a hard time in love relationships. Their world centers around their partner, while men center themselves more around work.
Women find this hard to fathom. They sometimes rationalize this by saying, ‘If you loved me…” and you can fill in the blanks. Emotions govern their very being and run the show. Men, however, tend to put the emotions aside to focus on earning a living.
While this is not a cut and dried explanation of their differences, it generally falls into these lines of thinking and feeling about love and relationships. Some women and men have a better understanding of what makes the opposite sex function, but, more often than not, they really don’t grasp the differences between the sexes.
So, if your man ‘checks’ out, doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. He’s just focused on other things. This is how they resolve the issues in their lives. Women want to know why, and how could they check out like this. They can easily feel unloved or ignored. If both sexes were more aware of how the other functions, their relationships would have a much smoother ride.
The egg has become the penultimate symbol of spring, spring fever, fertility and the promise of new life. Long known as one of the symbols of Ostara (the other being a white rabbit), the humble egg can also provide a playful yet potent symbol for you and your lover.
Here is a fun and simple ritual that can take your relationship to the next level:
Take two eggs and decorate them with your name and the name of your lover. Place them in a basket (or other small container) and place them by your bed on the eve of the Vernal Equinox.
This is a special time to connect with your soul mate, or re-new your love relationship. By honoring the Equinox, you are reconnecting with the ancient and powerful cycle of birth, death and rebirth and the reminder that, above all else, love can and will conquer all.
Take two eggs and decorate them with your name and the name of your lover. Place them in a basket (or other small container) and place them by your bed on the eve of the Vernal Equinox. Before you sleep that night, light a candle and release the coldness of the winter to the cosmos from your mind and heart while focusing on the eggs.
Another great time to utilize the symbol of Ostara is to wait until the first new Moon after the Vernal Equinox .The new moon has traditionally been the time of new beginnings and the start of new relationships, especially infatuation.
The first new moon following the beginning of spring is the very epitome of the time of planting new seeds, bringing forth change and to summon the power and emotions of Luna, the Moon, in heightening the passions that are waiting to unfold much like spring fever. Combing the pull of the new moon and the magic of Ostara you and your special person are truly embracing the potency of the season and the future that awaits.
In doing this, you are opening a spiritual door to the promise that the change of seasons holds for the two of you. This is a time of fresh beginnings, of new or renewed passions, and the planting of those special seeds of love that are so vital to both of you. The season supports love and relationships with a special energy.
This is a special time to connect with your soul mate, or re-new your love relationship. By honoring the Equinox, you are reconnecting with the ancient and powerful cycle of birth, death and rebirth and the reminder that, above all else, love can and will conquer all.
When two people first meet and have that wonderful connection, the attraction is usually very strong. Suddenly, you feel high on love and life seems sublime. Two potential lovers check out and focus intently on each other for the first few weeks.
During those first few days or weeks, people often loose their appetite, sleep patterns can be disrupted and normal thought patterns change. It is not uncommon to forget about other plans with friends and family. This is a time when body chemistry is altered and all emotional energy is spent on the new person in our lives.
While the first few days, weeks and even months, life can feel like you have met your perfect soul mate. The feelings are mutual and you think you have fallen in love. This stage of a relationship is known as infatuation.
Many professional psychologists believe that infatuation has three stages:
1. This first stage, the most intense and also the most common, has been referred to as blind desire, without regard to rationality or insight.
2. The second stage, while it may or may not rationally be based on sound judgment, the blind desire may continue. This may lead to a more mature love when infatuation diminishes, as it always does.
3. This third stage can plainly be described as bad judgment, ignoring the reality of the situation. This stage, however, if sound, can lead to a lasting, mature, perfect love relationship.
Infatuation, if sound, can transcend into mature love between two people, connecting you to a true soul mate. If infatuation wanes during the first few days, weeks or months, then love itself never develops. This is the initial bond that ties us together if the relationship becomes more permanent, but if not taken for what it really is, an illusion, then it can die as fast as it began.
The rational mind goes out the window during the infatuation process and people are strictly run by sexual energy and emotion. Sexual energy between two people can be very hard to deny and emotional energy is just that: emotions which are not rational and run the show during this time period.
Infatuation is often confused as love in the beginning of the relationship. An intense desire for each other is not necessarily lasting in nature. When it does continue and as people get to know each other, then a mutual love and respect develops, leading to a long term loving relationship. That is why this get-to-know-you stage should be carefully acknowledged because he/she may or may not be ‘the one’.
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In today’s hectic 24 hour information cycle world, trying to create and build an exciting and passionate relationship can seem almost overwhelming. For many men and women, whether Gen X’ers, Millenniums, or even Baby Boomers, the single life is the choice of preference and pleasure. Having a variety of relationships can, and often does, provide the spark and satisfaction, emotionally and physically, matching the speed that life seems to move at today. For those in multiple relationships, the question often is: how should I divide my time and energy in order to gain the most from these encounters?
Whenever I am asked a question like this, which happens more and more frequently, I respond by suggesting that looking at what the planets are doing relative to the birth (or natal) sign can provide a great deal of guidance. If you are fortunate enough to have your love interests’ birth information, this can be used to compare your chart with theirs to see whether this “cosmic dance” is a sensuous tango, a fiery Paso Doble, or maybe just the “Last Waltz”.
Each of the planets contributes to the astrological picture of the highs and lows of relationships and interactions, however, there are four celestial bodies that should be given particular attention in matters of the heart: the Moon, Venus, Mars and Mercury.
Within the boundaries of your personal chart, discovering the interactions and compatibility connections of these four entities can help you plan (or juggle, as the case may be) your own romantic schedule to maximize both the intensity and the quality of your relationships. Conversely, this information could give you advance warning of the times when things could be more of a challenge that could require you to take an emotional “time out”.
To begin with, let’s take the “Fab Four” as they impact your own natal chart. Turning to Mercury the Messenger, all manner of communications, verbal, written, non-verbal, and physical are impacted by this fast moving cosmic traveler. When there are positive energies cause by Mercury’s position relative to the other planets’ at a given point in time, words flow easier, connections seem to happen with little or no planning, and even during those intimate moments when speaking would get in the way, expressing what you are feeling comes across loud and clear. On the flip side, when negative energies occur, the chance of being misunderstood, of messages being delayed or lost altogether, and a general sense of confusion could make a night out on the town seem like an eternity when it comes to love and relationships.
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Lou Raedwulfe’s newest book 2013 Stones and Stars is hot off the press at both Amazon and Barnes and Noble. He is also the author of The RuneChest which is available at Amazon.com and Barnes & Noble, both in e-reader form. He is also a psychic advisors, Tarot Master and Rune Master. Get a reading from him on the site!
At some point in the great majority of romantic relationships, one or both partners find themselves asking the question: Are we meant to be together? The role that destiny has played in love affairs has been the focus of books, plays, music and movies for countless years. Romeo and Juliet, the star-crossed lovers, have become almost a universal symbol of the fated romance. Yet, in a real sense, the karmic effect on our romantic connections is an important consideration in understanding why some relationships last and others do not.
The term “Karma” has it origins in Indian culture and religious beliefs. To those practitioners, karma was the initial act that set in motion an entire change of cause and effect stretching through generations. It was neither reward nor punishment but, rather, the logical extension of the consequences of one’s actions. In western culture, particularly New Age, the term has become synonymous with destiny, fate, and the ultimate expression of the law of return; if good or evil acts are sent out, they will be returned three-fold.
In the context of a romance, love and relationships, karma has a unique role. The paths that led you to discover each other certainly could be said to be the “effect” of your actions and feelings that had gone before. The emotional connection that you both discovered is, truly, the intersecting of two karmic paths. Now, as a couple, you act in the present day that will cause karmic ripples for both of you in the future. Thus, it can be said that karma has followed the three-fold law: first, directing the meeting of two distinct destinies; second, intersecting each other’s destiny as a consequence of the meeting; and third, the actions and emotions of the two of you now set the table for what will return to both of you in the future.
Using this understanding of how karma functions, the answer to the question “Are we meant to be together?” takes on a different perspective. Since the two of you have, in fact “found” each other, the first part of the karmic role has been fulfilled. Your separate life paths each governed by its own unique karmic energy, have led you to this point. So, in that sense, yes, you were meant to meet and combine energies.
As a result of this karmic interaction, your destinies have combined at this moment in time. This is not a promise of a future but rather the second part of the karmic connection that has caused this emotional and spiritual intersection of your realities. Thus the second aspect of the role of karma in relationships has also come to fruition. Although it would be tempting to conclude that the relationship is “meant to be”, the third and most important element of karma still awaits to unfold.
It is this third aspect, the creation of the karma of the relationship, that ultimately determines whether it will stand or fail. Even as the two of you entwine as lovers, friends, partners in this relationship, you are creating those “ripples” of positive and negative energies that will return three-fold as you move forward. It is here that your karmic connection will answer the question of your destiny together. If what the two of you put forward is more positive than negative, these energies will resonate and support the relationship’s growth; conversely, if more negative than positive, the karmic resonance may herald the end of this soul mate romance.
So, in asking the question of whether this romance is destined to endure, you are examining the karmic energies that created the two of you as a couple as well as, the karmic potential for a long-term loving relationship. There are reasons in both of your lives that have lead you to this point; reasons that this intermingling of hearts, spirits and minds have blended and, ultimately, reasons that will determine the outcome. These reasons are the essence of the nature of karma. Discovering this essence is the key to answering your question and appreciating the knowledge it imparts.
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Halloween, or Samhain as it originally was called, is associated today, in the 21st century, with parties, costumes, trick-or-treating, haunted houses and horror films. Yet this ancient fall festival has strong spiritual and symbolic traditions that reflect the importance of this time. Known as the true end of summer, Halloween was a time of mystery, portents and divination.
For those searching for a new romance, Halloween may well be a time to look beyond the veil of the physical realm to see what can be learned from realm of spirits and psychic energy.
If you are dating more than one person (or interested in more than person although not yet involved), you may want to try this old Scottish practice to help you focus your future in love and relationships.
Take hazelnuts and put the initials of your love interests on them. If you have access to a working fireplace, light a fire and throw the labeled nuts in. When the fire dies down, check to see which nut (or nuts) has survived the flames. Those that have not burned symbolize the seed of an enduring romance. If all have burned, then none of the potential partners are worthy of your heart. When more than one remains, you know that, at the very least, they both have possibilities for a long term romance.
Another ritual from the British Isles involves taking apple peels and throwing it over your shoulder. If the peels appear to form letters, these are thought to be the initials of a future lover or partner.
There is an echo of ancient Rome in the use of apples since Pomona was the Roman goddess of fruit trees and orchards whose role was to protect and encourage the fruits of the earth. In fact, the French word for apple is “pomme”. Clearly, the fruits of a new romance would be within the purview of this ancient nature spirit.
Another divination practice involves standing in front of a mirror in a dark room (preferably a bedroom) at midnight on Halloween. Holding a candle, look into your reflection and allow your mind and heart to open to the universe. At the point where you feel suspended between worlds (and, yes, you will experience that sensation if you allow yourself the freedom to do so) send forth the thought: “Show me my lover”. It is said that the face of the person you will be with will appear just over your shoulder.
Seeking the guidance of a psychic reader or metaphysical adviser is also an option and consulting a practitioner, especially on Halloween can help you understand and interpret some of the “messages” you have received. Know that seeking advice from the universe during this season is a practice followed through the ages and that the answers to your questions are there for the knowing. You have but to ask them.
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Anyone that has ever been on the receiving end of a break-up finds themselves reflecting on whether they could have done anything different that could have saved the relationship. In my experience as a psychic advisor, I have been able to identify a number of steps that you can take to:
1. know if a potential problem exists and, if so
2. how to restore the relationship before it dissolves in frustration and heartache. Here are some tips that you add to your “relationship repair kit”.
Long before a problem manifests in the physical world, your psychical nature will pick up changes in a relationship, even if things seem fine on a conscious or superficial level. This could take the form of feeling distracted while in the company of your lover, a sense that “something is off” or just a kind of vague difference you cannot identify. Regardless, this is like an early warning system. Pretending that what you are sensing doesn’t exist could be a recipe for disaster. You are being shown that it is time to act; heed that message!
Speech between lovers can be the single most important part of relationship maintenance. Even if things seem to be going fine, it never hurts to ask your partner if they are happy, what they are thinking, etc. Similarly, you should not be afraid to express your feelings and concerns as well. This is especially important if your “spidey senses” are tingling. The more open that the communication between the two of you is, the better the chance of identifying potential issues before they fester and become toxic to the both of you.
As important as verbal communication is between lovers, listening is even more essential.
There are two kinds of listening:
1. Physical listening
2. psychical listening
Physical listening is, of course, hearing the words that your partner is saying. While this seems straight-forward, there is more involved than just comprehending the words you hear. Listen to the tone, inflection, even the cadence of the message your lover is sending. There are important emotional and psychical clues that can reveal whether there is “trouble in paradise”. This can reduce your once happy sex life in the bedroom as well.
Psychical listening will help you to examine how the words you are hearing are resonating within your being. You can practice the technique in this fashion: When you are alone play some music and focus on the internal messages that you receive. These could come in the form of emotions, memories, even mental images. It will be a challenge at first to listen beyond the melodies however, once you become attuned to the psychical aspect of “hearing” a whole new vista of sensory and extra-sensory information will be opened to you.
When you are comfortable with listening psychically, apply the same method to a random set of communications, such as radio, television or internet-based media. Again, what you are building is the skill to listen beyond the physical to pick up internal information and, more importantly, understanding the meanings and impact of those sounds to you on a spiritual level.
The first time that you listen to your lover psychically, and this may be in the infatuation stage, you may find yourself shocked at the flood of impressions you receive. The key is to not let yourself become overwhelmed but, rather, absorb the emotional and mental information that he is sending and store it for your review when you have some time alone. You may discover that there are issues that are troubling him (whether about you, about him, or some external situation which he carries into your relationship) or you could be pleased to know just how much being a couple means to him.
Regardless of what he transmits, this information can certainly go a long way to helping you decipher potential rough patches in your road of love so that things can be brought out into the open and, hopefully, resolved. This will also lead to a much happier relationship and fulfilling sex life.
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Everyone’s heart gets broken at one time or another. That hollow, cold feeling that aches with longing for that which was lost leaving you wondering if you can ever feel good again or, even worse, if you can feel anything at all? I’ve been asked the question many times in my years of metaphysical advising: How do you mend a broken heart? While the old adage about time healing is valid, there are some steps that you can take that can start you on the spiritual road to healing.
First, and most important is to do a cleansing of your personal space. While this is most often the bedroom, if there is a room or private location in which you truly feel both grounded in, by all means, feel free to do this exercise there. This is a way to release the negative energies that have lodged themselves in the very atmosphere and fiber of the space (or spaces) reinforcing the sadness within your being.
The best method for cleansing is to use what is known as a “smudge pot” which Native Americans have used for spiritual cleansing since the dawn of time. Sage can be purchased either in pre-made bundles, in stick form, or loose. The herb is then burned and the smoke can then be spread around the area you are seeking to purify and reclaim from the negative feelings harbored within.
There is no one correct way to perform this. Do it in any fashion that feels right to you. The key is to form your intent beforehand by visualizing the pain, hurt and sadness as a layer of dust or grime that you need to brush off of your world. By intending this action, those dark feelings can be loosened and cast out of your space and, by extension your heart as well.
Other methods using the same focused intent are the use of incense (similar to the sage pot) or scented candles. With candles, you are envisioning a light that can chase the darkness of the negative energy that has wrapped itself around you. Again, there is no one way to perform this. Let your own spirit and essence dictate the way. Still your thoughts and heart and allow yourself to release the chains of negative emotion that bind you.
Once the cleansing has been performed, there is a second step that can now facilitate the healing. This involves the use of Chamomile tea which can be purchased at grocery stores, health food stores and even some drug stores. Chamomile has used as a curative and restorative source since the ancient Egyptian times. In addition to its calming properties which promote relaxation, Chamomile tea also has anti-inflammatory properties that work on both the internal and external body. After enduring a broken heart, the entire system can, truthfully said to be “inflamed” as, as such needing to have that spiritual burning reduced and removed.
Again, go to your personal spot having prepared the tea before hand. Take some honey (raw is best, but any honey can be used) and flavor the tea with it. This combination-honey and chamomile, fuses to become a kind of ointment or balm that can be applied to the “hurt”. As you drink this preparation, open yourself to the calming effects of the tea and the sweetness of the honey. These two elements symbolize the start of the emotional healing that you seek.
What I have set forth here is intended to provide an approach to climbing from the sadness which you face towards a middle ground where you can move forward from this point. This is not an absolute solution; time and your own will are also important elements to heal the wounded heart. At the very least, though, it provides a starting point and a reminder that, yes healing the hurt is possible in love and relationships.
You may also want to connect with a psychic advisor for a reading session to discuss the situation and to obtain some additional clarity on where things stand and how your efforts to move forward can be continued. Ultimately, though, it is your own desire to be whole that will determine the outcome for you in love and relationships so that you can and will finally meet your true soul mate.
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About the author:
Lou is the author of Stars and Stones – A Look Forward with Astrology and Runes, 2012 An Astrological Overview and The RuneChest. All books are available at Amazon for Kindle and Barnes & Noble for Nook. He is also a psychic advisor, clairvoyant, tarot master and rune master. Get a reading from him on this site on the weekends.
The position of the planets within the houses, and the aspects that may be formed can provide addition insight as to the direction that a new relationship may be heading. Naturally, all of the planets impact human interactions both positive and negative. However, I believe that there are five which merit particular attention. While the interactions of Venus and the Moon are obvious factors in looking at a relationship’s potential, three other planets also need to be considered: Mercury, Neptune and Pluto.
Mercury, the Messenger, controls communications verbal and non-verbal in nature. When the messages between a new couple are clear and mutually understood, the relationship can thrive. When there is a distance involved, the importance of being understood on all levels is multiplied. When the lines of communication become jumbled or blocked, such as during a Mercury Retrograde, when arguments, misunderstandings and confusion can alter a potential long term relationship into a short-term fling even if this was not the intention at the beginning.
Neptune, the Sea King, controls dreams and illusions, as well as, the oceans. In a positive aspect, our dreams can manifest and become the reality that the heart longs for. When the aspect is negative, we can be fooled by the illusion of what we think (or hope) is real and have the desire to escape the truth overwhelm our sense of emotional preservation.
Pluto, the Dark Lord, is the planet of transformation; positive and negative. It has long been associated with dark or hidden desires and sexual matters. Not surprisingly it is also associated with the Eighth House. Aggressive passion and regeneration are also under the purview of the Dark Lord. If the aspects involving this planet are powerfully placed, the relationship will be intense, transformative but not necessarily of long duration.
Positive aspects, such as sextiles and trines, reinforce the best energies of these planetary relationships and, as such, add strong support for a new love relationship or long-distance relationship to blossom from attraction to passion and then onto a deeper exploration of how the two of you blend into a single spiritual being. In contrast, negative aspects such as oppositions or squares, place the darker side of these planets’ influence directly in the path of a budding romance. Then passion becomes just an excursion of the body without the connection of the heart, minds confuse a passing fancy for true love, and the message and the medium both become distorted causing confusion and heartbreak especially in long distance relationships.
Matching your natal chart to that of your prospective love interest is the best way to examine what energies and influences are in play that could make or break the relationship. Where a distance between you two is involved, obtaining a shared astrological chart is a way to build a unique bridge that you both can cross as you explore the possibilities. There are a variety of charts that can be cast by skilled astrologers and interpreted by esoteric advisors and psychics who can explain the importance of the interrelations between your planets and your love relationship.
Like everything in life, there are no guarantees since destiny always has the first move in love and relationships, especially with soul mates and long-distance relationships. Yet, the gentle fates do permit glimpses into the potential of new romances so that you can decide how to proceed. There is no right path between love and lust; both are gifts from the Universe. It is up to us to measure what is best for our times and our hearts.
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Lou Raedwulfe is the author of Stars and Stones – A Look Forward with Astrology and Runes, 2012 An Astrological Overview and The RuneChest. All books are available at Amazon for Kindle and Barnes & Noble for Nook from $12.99. He is also a psychic advisor, clairvoyant, tarot master and rune master. He is available for readings on the weekends.
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One of the biggest issues surrounding love and relationships today is whether gender roles have changed concerning who initiates matters – men or women? As a metaphysical counselor, many of my female clients worry that they will be viewed as “chasing” the person of their hopes and dreams. This perception in the past carried negative connotations of desperation and despair.
A woman chasing a man implies that she is aggressively trying to attract and influence the heart and passions of the person she is drawn to regardless of his feelings or interest in her. What is actually happening, in most cases, is that the woman’s heart is drawn to a particular person and the feelings that accompany that attraction make her feel that she is “chasing” when, in fact, what she is doing is “longing” for a romantic outcome.
There is a significant difference, however, between “chasing” and allowing oneself to be receptive to emotional connections between two hearts and spirits. This openness can best be described by the term “love seeking”. What follows is a brief explanation of how love-seeking works and how it can help you to find the romantic link you desire.
Human emotions are a powerful source of energy. Countless examples of the power of love and the human heart have been recorded throughout time. What is often left unsaid, however, is that this energy is transmitted both on the conscious and the sub-conscious or spiritual levels. Being aware that your inner emotions may be not be in sync with your conscious feelings can go a long way to forming the spiritual intent to draw the one you desire closer to you.
The first step in aligning your inner and outer feelings to prepare yourself for “love-seeking” your perfect relationship is to make a list. As simple as this may seem, the mere act of focusing your consciousness on how you feel about your self and about love in general is an important step to psychically acknowledging your needs and wants. The best way is to sit down and ask yourself the simple question: What do I need emotionally and how do I feel about love?
The list may be long, it may be short. When your stream of thoughts stops, the list is complete. Fold it up and set it aside. Wait at least one day and then take the list and, put it under your pillow that night. In the morning, after you are fully awake, ask the question again and make another list without looking at the first one.
Compare the two lists. If they are basically the same, your intent is aligned and ready to move forward. If there are differences, examine what these are and try to reconcile them. In this step the assistance of a skilled psychic counselor may be needed. When emotional and spiritual intent are aligned, the energy they contain can be harnessed and directed.
The final stage is both the easiest and the most challenging. Pick a quiet time at night. No particular location or setting is needed as long as you feel focused. With eyes closed, concentrate on your breath and heartbeat. Allowing this rhythm of life and love to carry your spirit along, envision your emotions flowing forward in the direction of the soul mate you wish to attract. If you have no particular person in mind, embrace this phrase: Seek my perfect love relationship as the emotional stream flows outward in its quest.
With practice, the art of love-seeking can be a powerful tool to finding the soul mate you desire. Above all, reconnecting the inner and outer emotional bands strengthens the heart, emboldens the soul, and makes the path of destiny easier to tread when seeking your new love relationship.