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Most people want that one perfect person in our lives and somehow, the opportunities to meet seem to elude us. Since we are social beings, most people want that one person that we can count on to experience life with. Don’t give up because they are out there somewhere and yes, you can find them!
We spend so much time working and tend to make it the main focus of our week. The balance gets tipped toward all work and no play. This needs to be changed or reorganized to make finding the perfect relationship a reality. Yes, it can be done; you just need to add in some important components to start the ball rolling.
Setting the goal of finding Mr. Right is only one step in the process of finding of finding your perfect love relationship. You need to know what you want and how you plan to get it. Once you have a plan, much of the work is done. Taking the actions necessary to find yourself in that relationship rich environment should be part of that plan.
6 Tips to land new love
1. Cut your work commute down by moving or changing jobs
2. Change jobs to cut commuting time down – this will give you more time in your new relationship
3. Participate in a hobby regularly that you love – this puts you on target for finding someone you have something in common with
4. Throw a party and have your guests bring a friend of the opposite sex
5. Take a vacation with friends – singles cruises are a great place to meet up with your next love relationship
6. Get out in nature with your friends – hiking or just a picnic is a great way to meet new potential partners that like doing the same things.
Turning things in your favor is not hard. Finding new experiences to enjoy may involve joining a group or taking lessons in something you really want to learn. You can open up the opportunities for finding real romance, but you have to get motivated to try new things which will put you in a better position and on the road to finding that special love relationship.
Make a plan
Creating opportunities to socialize will put you in charge of meeting the right person. Finding a group that likes doing the same things you do will augment your search and bring you fulfillment in your personal and social life. You have to do an action to start putting yourself in a position to meet true love that lasts. You’ll both need something in common and this will help you do that.
Execute the plan
Most people have dreams of finding their perfect life mate. Plan starts with a dream, but, dreams rarely come through unless the plan of action is put into motion. A plan with no action just remains a dream and while dreaming is fun, it doesn’t usually end up as reality. Make your plans have some sort of action that you must take to accomplish your ultimate goal; finding your soul mate.
All successful people once had a dream. That dream didn’t automatically just turn into reality without a plan and the action behind it to get where they wanted to be. You can find that relationship of your dreams as long as you are willing to put in the effort. Doing whatever it takes to accomplish your dreams will get you right where you want to be; in the arms of your perfect love relationship. Meeting a soul mate isn’t hard when you put an action behind your dreams.
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One of the most challenging questions I’ve faced as a psychic advisor is whether or not a relationship should be ended. Often a client has been fretting over making such an emotional and, yes, gut-wrenching decision for quite some time. Mixed messages, passion commingled with pessimism, self-doubt, and the feeling that there is a an emotional void that grows wider with each passing day all cloud the ultimate issue of whether this relationship is worth the trouble or whether it is time to move on.
Although speaking with a skilled psychic counselor is often the best way to place those tangled feelings “on the table” so that matters can be sorted out and a path forward identified, you can start the process to help make sense of what you are experiencing and to formulate the questions that need to be answered. This process involves three stages: Acknowledging the past, recognizing the present and projecting the future.
The first stage of evaluating the possible outcome of your love relationship is to acknowledge what has lead up to this point. The best way to do this is to find some quiet time when you can organize your thoughts and feelings. If you have a picture, a piece of jewelry or other gift/token from the other person, make certain that you have that handy as well. As with other personal rituals, candlelight is preferable to electric illumination, however if no candles are available, dim the lights so that you still can see but not be distracted by the glare.
Having prepared your space, make certain that you are relaxed and comfortable. Make sure you have paper and pen where you can use them. Taking that item (that will symbolize the other person in the relationship) set it in front you and, as you slow your breathing, allow your eyes to focus on the item and let the memories of your first meeting, first kiss, etc. to flow from you. As you recall the events, write them down in two columns. The first column should be titled “Stay” and the second “Go”. Be honest with your memories because the good and then bad need to be recorded and listed. There is no minimum or maximum number; it is what you recall, nothing more, nothing less.
When you have reached the present point in time, stop and set the list aside without looking at it. Take a moment to reconnect yourself to the present; stand and stretch, get something to drink (if needed) and let those memories flow serenely back to their place. Now, settle back into your comfortable place and, this time, focus on the way things are at present in the relationship. You will still focus on the object(s) as before and, again, you will make a list with the same two headings. Include your own actions and responses as well as those of your love relationship while leaving nothing out. As before, keep listing until you are done, however short or long that takes.
Try as best as you can to focus only on the present in your relationships. You’ve already reviewed the past and the future is not ready to be examined yet. When this list is completed, set it aside as well and again, take a break. You may want to consider stopping at this point and allowing heart and mind to recover from the journey that they have been on and then setting aside a separate time for the third stage of the process. Again, whatever is the easiest and most comfortable for you is all that matters. this is your journey and you are in charge of how it is taken.
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If you were to ask me what the number one problem that causes conflict in relationships is, I would answer without hesitation: jealousy. Whether it’s the specter of an ex-lover coming back into the picture, feelings that your partner has “lost interest” in you because his or her attentions are being focused elsewhere, or the fact that the two of you don’t seem spend as much time together and you find yourself resenting it.
Even if there is a valid reason, the negative power of jealousy cannot be overstated. So the issue then becomes: How do I deal with feelings of jealousy so that the relationship does not suffer?
To begin with, it is important to recognize that feelings of jealousy are not unique to either men or women. Both genders are susceptible to these fears. The dictionary gives a great definition that demonstrates the effect of this emotion: “mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry or unfaithfulness”. What is required as a first step in dealing with jealousy is to identify what is stimulating this emotion to surface.
One method that I have found useful to with this process is to run an “internal check” to see if these feelings are a response to something within you or to a change in your external world; in short, something you are picking up. Our spirits contain a wealth of information that is gathered on both conscious and sub-conscious levels even without intending it. The following exercise is another way of tapping into this information to help you understand why you are feeling this way and how to proceed.
Take a candle and place it in front of a mirror. Lighting the candle, focus on the flame and the reflection that you see in the mirror before you. Allowing yourself to relax, let your mind empty of any conscious thoughts and feel the connection with your inner self. Some people like to use soft music or incense. What ever creates an atmosphere that permits you to open yourself freeing those impressions that you have captured on a sub-conscious level is what you should use. Continuing to focus on flame and reflection, let your heart ask a simple question: Why do I feel this way?
The impressions you receive in response may take the form of images, fragments of conversations, memories or other sensory events. The answer that is received will differ from one person to the next; there are no rules or guidelines since it is the spirit that is communicating in the form that responds to the question. When there are no more impressions coming forth, blow out the candle and, looking at your reflection, thank yourself for what you have been shown.
It is important that you are honest with yourself in examining that which has been revealed. It may be that these feelings come from a place totally unrelated to your relationship in which case you need to explore further ways of resolving the source of your discomfort.
Conversely, you may discover that, yes, there is something external that is causing these feelings. In that case, rather than allowing anger to overtake you, it is important to take the soonest opportunity to speak with your lover about what you have learned (whether you wish to share the ritual aspect of this is, again, totally a personal decision). Should he/she refuse or otherwise attempt to minimize your impressions, you may well have received your answer – lthough it may not be what you wanted to hear.
Ultimately, the emotional “glue” in a relationship is trust and your romantic partner should be willing to understand your concerns and to meet you halfway in working towards resolving these negative energies. In this sense, jealousy, though negative, can help the two of you forge a stronger bond by facing that which challenges your love and removing those pockets of uncertainty that inhibit growth. The “green-eyed monster” can be fearsome, but, like many mythical creatures, can be vanquished by the understanding and power of love.
Again, this may well be something that a skilled psychic professional can help guide you with. Above all, accepting that these emotions are a part of you that you can resolve is the first step to healing them.
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Lou Raedwulfe is the author of The RuneChest. All books are available at Amazon for Kindle and Barnes & Noble for Nook from $12.99. He is also a psychic advisor, clairvoyant, tarot master and rune master. Get a reading today on this site.
At one time or another, most of us have felt the pain of being in a relationship that ended because our partner had “found someone else”. Even for psychics, the seductive power of passion and love can blind us to the fact that we have been tossed aside for somebody new (or not so new, in the case of a returning old flame) until the reality blindsides us with the truth.
While the pain associated with discovering a cheating partner cannot and should not be minimized, I believe that, on a psychic level, we all possess the ability to “know” when there’s someone else and to prepare ourselves as best we can to deal with the situation when the truth finally comes to light. What follows are some ways that this internal knowledge can be tapped and suggestions on how to use this information in love and relationships.
Dreams
When you dream, your ability to access information that you have gained, consciously and sub-consciously, is dramatically increased. Differences in feelings, emotional currents, and even physical reactions to touch are all recorded and can be tapped into while we sleep.
There are a number of ways to access these internally stored records. Some people like to write the issue down and place it under their pillow, while others meditate on the question and let themselves drift off during that time. Another approach is to take a photo of your love relationship interest (preferably one that both of you are in), focus on that invisible bond between you and ask to be shown if it is still strong.
When you wake, you may find that:
1. The answer came to you in a dream
2. Things which “didn’t make sense” now add up
3. A kind of peace has settled within you that you know and understand where things are in the relationship.
It should go without saying that attempting to do this while you are physically next to your partner could be complicated, to say the least. Waiting until a night when you are sleeping alone or, if that isn’t a possibility, taking a nap at some other time during the day will give the best results. You may also find yourself waking feeling like the answer is incomplete or absent all together. In that case, wait a few days and repeat the process. Our own internal defense mechanisms against emotional pain often can make accessing these inner observations difficult requiring more than one attempt.
Just as there is no one “right way” to try and tap into your internal observations and feelings, so too, the answer manifests itself in a variety ways from person to person. You will eventually get your answers just as psychics receive information for you. While you may not get your answer on the first few tries, practice will eventually give you the information you are looking for.
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At some point in the great majority of romantic relationships, one or both partners find themselves asking the question: Are we meant to be together? The role that destiny has played in love affairs has been the focus of books, plays, music and movies for countless years. Romeo and Juliet, the star-crossed lovers, have become almost a universal symbol of the fated romance. Yet, in a real sense, the karmic effect on our romantic connections is an important consideration in understanding why some relationships last and others do not.
The term “Karma” has it origins in Indian culture and religious beliefs. To those practitioners, karma was the initial act that set in motion an entire change of cause and effect stretching through generations. It was neither reward nor punishment but, rather, the logical extension of the consequences of one’s actions. In western culture, particularly New Age, the term has become synonymous with destiny, fate, and the ultimate expression of the law of return; if good or evil acts are sent out, they will be returned three-fold.
In the context of a romance, love and relationships, karma has a unique role. The paths that led you to discover each other certainly could be said to be the “effect” of your actions and feelings that had gone before. The emotional connection that you both discovered is, truly, the intersecting of two karmic paths. Now, as a couple, you act in the present day that will cause karmic ripples for both of you in the future. Thus, it can be said that karma has followed the three-fold law: first, directing the meeting of two distinct destinies; second, intersecting each other’s destiny as a consequence of the meeting; and third, the actions and emotions of the two of you now set the table for what will return to both of you in the future.
Using this understanding of how karma functions, the answer to the question “Are we meant to be together?” takes on a different perspective. Since the two of you have, in fact “found” each other, the first part of the karmic role has been fulfilled. Your separate life paths each governed by its own unique karmic energy, have led you to this point. So, in that sense, yes, you were meant to meet and combine energies.
As a result of this karmic interaction, your destinies have combined at this moment in time. This is not a promise of a future but rather the second part of the karmic connection that has caused this emotional and spiritual intersection of your realities. Thus the second aspect of the role of karma in relationships has also come to fruition. Although it would be tempting to conclude that the relationship is “meant to be”, the third and most important element of karma still awaits to unfold.
It is this third aspect, the creation of the karma of the relationship, that ultimately determines whether it will stand or fail. Even as the two of you entwine as lovers, friends, partners in this relationship, you are creating those “ripples” of positive and negative energies that will return three-fold as you move forward. It is here that your karmic connection will answer the question of your destiny together. If what the two of you put forward is more positive than negative, these energies will resonate and support the relationship’s growth; conversely, if more negative than positive, the karmic resonance may herald the end of this soul mate romance.
So, in asking the question of whether this romance is destined to endure, you are examining the karmic energies that created the two of you as a couple as well as, the karmic potential for a long-term loving relationship. There are reasons in both of your lives that have lead you to this point; reasons that this intermingling of hearts, spirits and minds have blended and, ultimately, reasons that will determine the outcome. These reasons are the essence of the nature of karma. Discovering this essence is the key to answering your question and appreciating the knowledge it imparts.
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Anyone that has ever been on the receiving end of a break-up finds themselves reflecting on whether they could have done anything different that could have saved the relationship. In my experience as a psychic advisor, I have been able to identify a number of steps that you can take to:
1. know if a potential problem exists and, if so
2. how to restore the relationship before it dissolves in frustration and heartache. Here are some tips that you add to your “relationship repair kit”.
Long before a problem manifests in the physical world, your psychical nature will pick up changes in a relationship, even if things seem fine on a conscious or superficial level. This could take the form of feeling distracted while in the company of your lover, a sense that “something is off” or just a kind of vague difference you cannot identify. Regardless, this is like an early warning system. Pretending that what you are sensing doesn’t exist could be a recipe for disaster. You are being shown that it is time to act; heed that message!
Speech between lovers can be the single most important part of relationship maintenance. Even if things seem to be going fine, it never hurts to ask your partner if they are happy, what they are thinking, etc. Similarly, you should not be afraid to express your feelings and concerns as well. This is especially important if your “spidey senses” are tingling. The more open that the communication between the two of you is, the better the chance of identifying potential issues before they fester and become toxic to the both of you.
As important as verbal communication is between lovers, listening is even more essential.
There are two kinds of listening:
1. Physical listening
2. psychical listening
Physical listening is, of course, hearing the words that your partner is saying. While this seems straight-forward, there is more involved than just comprehending the words you hear. Listen to the tone, inflection, even the cadence of the message your lover is sending. There are important emotional and psychical clues that can reveal whether there is “trouble in paradise”. This can reduce your once happy sex life in the bedroom as well.
Psychical listening will help you to examine how the words you are hearing are resonating within your being. You can practice the technique in this fashion: When you are alone play some music and focus on the internal messages that you receive. These could come in the form of emotions, memories, even mental images. It will be a challenge at first to listen beyond the melodies however, once you become attuned to the psychical aspect of “hearing” a whole new vista of sensory and extra-sensory information will be opened to you.
When you are comfortable with listening psychically, apply the same method to a random set of communications, such as radio, television or internet-based media. Again, what you are building is the skill to listen beyond the physical to pick up internal information and, more importantly, understanding the meanings and impact of those sounds to you on a spiritual level.
The first time that you listen to your lover psychically, and this may be in the infatuation stage, you may find yourself shocked at the flood of impressions you receive. The key is to not let yourself become overwhelmed but, rather, absorb the emotional and mental information that he is sending and store it for your review when you have some time alone. You may discover that there are issues that are troubling him (whether about you, about him, or some external situation which he carries into your relationship) or you could be pleased to know just how much being a couple means to him.
Regardless of what he transmits, this information can certainly go a long way to helping you decipher potential rough patches in your road of love so that things can be brought out into the open and, hopefully, resolved. This will also lead to a much happier relationship and fulfilling sex life.
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Everyone’s heart gets broken at one time or another. That hollow, cold feeling that aches with longing for that which was lost leaving you wondering if you can ever feel good again or, even worse, if you can feel anything at all? I’ve been asked the question many times in my years of metaphysical advising: How do you mend a broken heart? While the old adage about time healing is valid, there are some steps that you can take that can start you on the spiritual road to healing.
First, and most important is to do a cleansing of your personal space. While this is most often the bedroom, if there is a room or private location in which you truly feel both grounded in, by all means, feel free to do this exercise there. This is a way to release the negative energies that have lodged themselves in the very atmosphere and fiber of the space (or spaces) reinforcing the sadness within your being.
The best method for cleansing is to use what is known as a “smudge pot” which Native Americans have used for spiritual cleansing since the dawn of time. Sage can be purchased either in pre-made bundles, in stick form, or loose. The herb is then burned and the smoke can then be spread around the area you are seeking to purify and reclaim from the negative feelings harbored within.
There is no one correct way to perform this. Do it in any fashion that feels right to you. The key is to form your intent beforehand by visualizing the pain, hurt and sadness as a layer of dust or grime that you need to brush off of your world. By intending this action, those dark feelings can be loosened and cast out of your space and, by extension your heart as well.
Other methods using the same focused intent are the use of incense (similar to the sage pot) or scented candles. With candles, you are envisioning a light that can chase the darkness of the negative energy that has wrapped itself around you. Again, there is no one way to perform this. Let your own spirit and essence dictate the way. Still your thoughts and heart and allow yourself to release the chains of negative emotion that bind you.
Once the cleansing has been performed, there is a second step that can now facilitate the healing. This involves the use of Chamomile tea which can be purchased at grocery stores, health food stores and even some drug stores. Chamomile has used as a curative and restorative source since the ancient Egyptian times. In addition to its calming properties which promote relaxation, Chamomile tea also has anti-inflammatory properties that work on both the internal and external body. After enduring a broken heart, the entire system can, truthfully said to be “inflamed” as, as such needing to have that spiritual burning reduced and removed.
Again, go to your personal spot having prepared the tea before hand. Take some honey (raw is best, but any honey can be used) and flavor the tea with it. This combination-honey and chamomile, fuses to become a kind of ointment or balm that can be applied to the “hurt”. As you drink this preparation, open yourself to the calming effects of the tea and the sweetness of the honey. These two elements symbolize the start of the emotional healing that you seek.
What I have set forth here is intended to provide an approach to climbing from the sadness which you face towards a middle ground where you can move forward from this point. This is not an absolute solution; time and your own will are also important elements to heal the wounded heart. At the very least, though, it provides a starting point and a reminder that, yes healing the hurt is possible in love and relationships.
You may also want to connect with a psychic advisor for a reading session to discuss the situation and to obtain some additional clarity on where things stand and how your efforts to move forward can be continued. Ultimately, though, it is your own desire to be whole that will determine the outcome for you in love and relationships so that you can and will finally meet your true soul mate.
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About the author:
Lou is the author of Stars and Stones – A Look Forward with Astrology and Runes, 2012 An Astrological Overview and The RuneChest. All books are available at Amazon for Kindle and Barnes & Noble for Nook. He is also a psychic advisor, clairvoyant, tarot master and rune master. Get a reading from him on this site on the weekends.
In my years as a professional spiritual advisor and astrologer, I have learned that non-verbal communications, those messages that come from within the heart and the soul, can transmit our desires and feelings with more impact that mere speech or writing could ever hope to achieve. In a real sense, the willingness to allow your deepest feelings to flow freely from within and out into the Universe can often help put events into motion that can bring about a positive change and, quite possibly, turn dreams to reality. This expression of longing is, truly, a summoning of the power of karmic communication.
I must point out that the technique I am about to describe is not a guarantee that what you desire will come to pass by using it, rather, by actually “sending” this message out, you are putting your trust in the destiny that awaits you to “reply” and show you the path forward. If another person is involved, they may well find their thoughts and feelings moving in your direction to clarify the ambiguity between the two of you. If the issue involves a situation, such as a career or job change, moving etc. the “reply” may take a more symbolic form that illuminates things in a way you hadn’t considered before. These techniques help with the Law of Attraction and making your karma with each other work smoothly.
First, decide what the subject of your “message” is going to be. Do you want someone to know how deeply your feelings run? Is there someone whose attention you would love to attract? Maybe you’ve been frustrated about trying to find a fulfilling career (or even just a job to help you get by in the short term). Or, perhaps, you are just feeling at a loss about the direction of your life. Whatever you decide, make certain that you limit it to one topic so that you can fully focus on it. This will help you to attract your true soul mate.
There is no better preparation for karmic communicating than to place your physical body in its most comfortable state. This, obviously, will vary from person to person. For some, it could mean a relaxing bath or shower. For others, maybe a run in solitude on your favorite trail will do the trick. Still others might want a glass of wine and candlelight. Whatever activity that leaves you in an open, relaxed state is the one that you should choose.
The one constant that is required is to be in a state and a physical location where you are not distracted by any external forces such as noise, television, phones and/or internet devices, and, most importantly, other people. Next, let your mind clear of everything. A common way to do this is to focus on the beating of your heart or your breathing. Yes, it is like preparing to meditate, but there the similarities end. Time ceases to be a factor; it is just you and the Universe when dealing with love and relationships.
Now you are ready. Formulate the ‘message’ in your heart and let the words take shape in your mind. See and, most importantly, feel every letter of every word. Keep the entire thought/message/communication short and clear. Color it with your feelings, hopes and, yes fears (if there are any). In your mind’s eye, the words should be three dimensional. When complete, visualize your hands gently embracing that precious communication and, with an exhaled breath, cast it to the universe.
You will feel a completeness and a satisfaction that you have expressed that which was trapped within. Now it is up to the cosmos to retrieve the answer and return it to you. And how will you know that it was received? Again, this is unique with everyone but, in a way that resonates with the essence of your being, you will know that you are being responded to. Sometimes, however, you may need the guidance of a trained psychic advisor to understand the content and the import of the response. Timely psychic or spiritual readings can reinforce the understanding of your karmic communication.
Lou Raedwulfe is a published author, astrologer and psychic who is also a master of tarot and the runes. His books are all available at Amazon.com
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As a practicing psychic and astrologer, I am frequently confronted with clients seeking advice on how to get over feelings of sadness and loneliness, particularly in matters of love and romance. Surprisingly, one of the most active periods for these kinds of emotions is the summer.
With all the emphasis on fun, outside activities, and, of course, summer romance, having to deal with the ‘summertime blues’ can be a challenge. Looking at this astrologically, however, there are things that you can be aware of that can help hold those sad times at bay and maximize your energies and focus to enjoying the warm months of the year.
The first thing to be aware of is the power of the Moon. Though always a powerful force for those of us here on Earth, the Moon’s effect seems increased during the summer months. Traditionally, the highest tides of the year are near the summer Solstice and the full moon closest to that time carries a great deal of emotional energy. The names that various cultures give to summer full moons-Honey Moon, Strawberry Moon, Rose moon (June); Claiming Moon, Mead Moon, Hay Moon (July); Grain Moon, Lightening Moon, Fruit Moon (August) speak to times of passion, growth, romance and primal energies.
In previous articles posted here and elsewhere, I have pointed out the potency of Luna on human emotions and actions. The new moon (or dark of the moon), is a time for new beginnings, and the full moon, a time when emotions ride high as the tides, are two important astrological events to be aware of. Human feelings are heighted during both periods and, as such, if there is something negative going on at those times, the sadness generated will also be heighted. Knowing what phase the moon is in can help you to understanding why those ‘blue’ feelings may be more intense and, importantly, taking steps to provide distractions to keep you from dwelling on that which makes you sad.
Knowing the position of your natal, or birth, planets is also a useful tool in dealing with negative emotions and feelings. Since the heavens are always in motion, aspects formed by the planets’ present positions to those of your birth chart, called transits, also can impact events and feelings both positively and negatively.
While there is nothing we mortals can do to alter the course of astral bodies, we can take the knowledge of their impact on us and make plans to limit our exposure to any negativity. For example, if an important planet becomes ‘squared’ (consider a hard or negative aspect in astrology) during a period of time, avoiding or limiting potential situations that are ruled by the planet could help reduce the emotional distress that may occur.
Summer is a time to renew the soul, energize the spirit, and expand the beauty of the heart. Seek out a skilled psychic and/or astrologer for psychic readings to discuss your love plans for these months of sun and fun and discover that, even in down times, there is a cure for the summertime blues.
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Lou Raedwulfe is also the author of several books all available at Amazon.com
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When two people first meet and have that wonderful connection, the attraction is usually very strong. Suddenly, you feel high on love and life seems sublime. Two potential lovers check out and focus intently on each other for the first few weeks.
During those first few days or weeks, people often loose their appetite, sleep patterns can be disrupted and normal thought patterns change. It is not uncommon to forget about other plans with friends and family. This is a time when body chemistry is altered and all emotional energy is spent on the new person in our lives.
While the first few days, weeks and even months, life can feel like you have met your perfect soul mate. The feelings are mutual and you think you have fallen in love. This stage of a relationship is known as infatuation.
Many professional psychologists believe that infatuation has three stages:
1. This first stage, the most intense and also the most common, has been referred to as blind desire, without regard to rationality or insight.
2. The second stage, while it may or may not rationally be based on sound judgment, the blind desire may continue. This may lead to a more mature love when infatuation diminishes, as it always does.
3. This third stage can plainly be described as bad judgment, ignoring the reality of the situation. This stage, however, if sound, can lead to a lasting, mature, perfect love relationship.
Infatuation, if sound, can transcend into mature love between two people, connecting you to a true soul mate. If infatuation wanes during the first few days, weeks or months, then love itself never develops. This is the initial bond that ties us together if the relationship becomes more permanent, but if not taken for what it really is, an illusion, then it can die as fast as it began.
The rational mind goes out the window during the infatuation process and people are strictly run by sexual energy and emotion. Sexual energy between two people can be very hard to deny and emotional energy is just that: emotions which are not rational and run the show during this time period.
Infatuation is often confused as love in the beginning of the relationship. An intense desire for each other is not necessarily lasting in nature. When it does continue and as people get to know each other, then a mutual love and respect develops, leading to a long term loving relationship. That is why this get-to-know-you stage should be carefully acknowledged because he/she may or may not be ‘the one’.
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