There are times in relationships when it seems that a gulf has opened between the two of you. This can happen at the beginning when it seems that the initial heat and passion has stalled; during the part of the connection as things seemed to be moving from casual to committed; or even in longer running couples where the “been there, done that” feeling has left you both feeling stale, worn out, and bored.
Psychic advisors are frequently asked “How can we (I) fix this?” What follows is a brief roadmap to help you bridge that emotional divide to a new level of intimacy.
1. Embrace your differences: The first and most important part of building or repairing the emotional bridge between the two of you is to accept that the differences in how each of you view love and intimacy is also a part of what first drew you together.
This is true in an astrological as well as a spiritual sense. Planetary relationships, called aspects, reflect and magnify the energies between you two both positively and negatively. Yet it is the connection, also known as the Synastry, of your charts that first drew you together. So embracing the uniqueness in each of you is a reaffirmation of your mutual attraction.
2. Check your communications: If embracing your differences is the foundation for this “bridge building” then understanding communication issues, (verbal and non-verbal) is the framework that is constructed on that foundation. There are many variables that impact our ability to communicate our feelings, desires, needs, hopes, and wants in love and relationships.
Being aware that communications may be impacted either by internal or external forces and can help you identify if there is interference and, importantly, give you the opportunity to point this out to your partner before a missed or mixed message causes an unnecessary and unintended disagreement.
Needless to say, keeping communication open and understanding that it may take more effort at times to maintain clarity can strengthen the bonds of emotion and trust for both of you.
3. Embrace the past then let it go: Time only moves in one direction which is forward. All that has happened, (good and bad), to both of you before this current relationship started and during its existence has lead to this point. Unlike the planets, humans do not move backwards or in retrograde motion, and so we all must go “direct” towards our individual destinies.
Those lessons, memories, and feelings can serve as the emotional cement for the “bridge” in your relationships. They are the foundation upon which the two of you can move forward across the rivers of uncertainty towards a true opening of hearts and souls. And, like pavement, our pasts mark the path to our future.
4. Last, remember that love illuminates the way because there was a cosmic ‘spark’ that drew the two of you together at the beginning. Whether you are at the beginning of the relationship looking to take it to the next level, feeling that things have kind of hit a plateau, or whether time and fate has created an emotional gulf, that spark of emotional energy remains.
By building the bridge, the two of you can follow the light of the spark of love towards the destiny that awaits you. Focusing on love’s illumination is the final step that can lead across the bridge; a guiding cosmic glow that can show both of you where the steps can lead.
Apart from the barrage of daily distractions that accompany 21st century living, astrological events can also distort and confuse what we are trying to send to each other. Mercury retrogrades, for example, can interfere with even the most basic messages. As the planets continue their cosmic waltz, other aspects can also lead to misunderstandings, confusion, and conflict.
There are no absolutes in karma or destiny and you may discover that the road ahead in your love relationship does, in fact, separate into different paths. However, taking the journey will strengthen the spirit and reinforce the heart for what lies ahead.
Seeking the guidance of a skilled astral advisor who understands both the movements of the heavens and the ways of the spirit can help provide a blueprint to build the path to tomorrow.
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